One of the best wedding gifts my husband and I received was Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages. I didn't read it immediately; it collected dust on a shelf for a bit. However, when I did read it, it sparked a deeper conversation as I looped him into my a-ha moment. Why would a newly married couple not want to love each other better?
"If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants." - Gary Chapman
Once you know your partner's love language (as well as your own), communication becomes easier and needs are better met. For example, you'll feel loved when he starts a load of laundry if his love language is Acts of Service. He'll feel loved if you tell him how much you appreciate the laundering if his love language is Words of Affirmation.
So let's go! Here are 10 ideas for showing your spouse you love them this Valentine's Day and all of the other days, too.
Life is sometimes hectic which means we don't take the time to effectively express our hearts to one another. If you can't imagine doing life without her because her encouragement makes your days brighter, let her know. If you can't fathom a day without him because he keeps life running smoothly, tell him.
First off, put the phone way. Quality time is not existing in the same space and breathing the same air. According to the Oxford Dictionary, quality time is "time spent giving another person one's undivided attention in order to strengthen a relationship."
Sure, he could probably use a new set of screwdrivers, but what does he want? You may think she'd like an air fryer, but unless you're certain, don't go there. Listen and pay attention to your partner's interests. They're likely already telling you all you need to know.
If your spouse likes his or her vehicle tidy but simply hasn't taken the time to wipe the dash or vaccum the floorboard lately, you taking the time to do so is an act of service and thus, an act of love.
Of course physical touch is a love language; where would a marriage be without it?
"Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins."
1 Peter 4:8